Sins, and sex & marriage.

THE TWO BASIC KINDS OF SINS:
SPIRITUAL SINS & NATURAL SINS.

1) SPIRITUAL SINS

Before God had cursed the ground:
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      when we were still in the lush garden of Eden
                 & so had all our bodily needs met,
      and there were only two of us
                 so there was no possibility of adultery,
      before the tree of life became unavailable
                 so there was not yet the certainty of death, 
      Satan could tempt us to commit only spiritual sins:

                 pride; vanity; jealousy; hatred; unrighteous anger;
                 fear (when you know you should be trusting God);
,         ,         ,         Rom c14 v23: ctd … for whatsoever is not of faith is sin.   KJV

                 bitterness; fruitless regret; idolatry; etc,

                 sins that don’t need a body, only a self,

                 sins that Satan is used to committing.
                 Indeed, the only sort of sins that Satan can commit.

      But now that we are under the pressures of:
                 limited resources
                 & a finite life, 
      Satan/demons can tempt us to commit:
                 natural sins too,

                 sins you need a body for,
                 sins no demon can commit.

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1a) THE TWO UNFORGIVABLE SINS: BOTH SPIRITUAL.

Of the following two sins:

            A)  is commonly called “the unforgivable sin”

            but B) could also be thought of as an unforgivable sin.

A)  Permanently rejecting God’s Spirit,
calling God’s miracles “Satan’s work”:

I.E. Having convincingly heard/seen/read about God’s Spirit
so that you know, in your mind, that God heals us,
but have started to eternally refuse to believe it,
in your, presumably bad, heart/spirit.

            Matt c12 v22-32    (Mark c3 v22-30):
            Then was brought unto him one possessed with a devil,
            blind, and dumb:
            and he healed him,
            insomuch that the blind and dumb both spake and saw.
            And all the people were amazed, and said,
                 Is not this the son of David?
            But when the Pharisees heard it, they said,
                 This fellow doth not cast out devils, but by Beelzebub
                 the prince of the devils.
            And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them,
                 Every kingdom divided against itself
                 is brought to desolation;
                 and every city or house divided against itself
                 shall not stand:
                 And if Satan cast out Satan,
                 he is divided against himself;
                 how shall then his kingdom stand?
                 And if I by Beelzebub cast out devils,
                 by whom do your children [followers] cast them out?
                 therefore they shall be your judges.
                 But if I cast out devils by the Spirit of God,
                 then the kingdom of God is come unto you.
                 Or else how can one enter into a strong man's house,
                 and spoil [rob] his goods,
                 except he first bind the strong man?
                 and then he will spoil his house.
                 He that is not with me is against me;
                 and he that gathereth not with me scattereth abroad.
                 Wherefore I say unto you,
                       All manner of sin and blasphemy
                       shall be forgiven unto men:
                       but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost
                       shall not be forgiven unto men.
                       And whosoever speaketh a word against
                       the Son of man,
                       it shall be forgiven him:
                       but whosoever speaketh against
                       the Holy Ghost,
                       it shall not be forgiven him,
                       neither in this world,
                       neither in the world to come.    KJV

B)  Permanently rejecting Jesus
despite seeing miracles & understanding the gospel:

I.E. Having convincingly heard/seen/read about God’s Son
so that you know, in your mind, that God has Forgiven our sins,
but have started to eternally refuse to believe it,
in your, presumably bad, heart/spirit.


            John c3 v36:
            He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life:
            and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life;
            but the wrath of God abideth on him.   KJV

            John c5 v22-23:
            For the Father judgeth no man,
            but hath committed all judgment unto the Son:
            that all men should honour the Son,
            even as they honour the Father.
            He that honoureth not the Son
            honoureth not the Father which hath sent him.   KJV

            John c8 v24:
            I said therefore unto you, that ye shall die in your sins:
            for if ye believe not that I am he,
            ye shall die in your sins.   KJV

            John c12 v47-48:
            And if any man hear my words, and believe not,
            I judge him not:
            for I came not to judge the world,
            but to save the world.
            He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words,
            hath one that judgeth him:
            the word that I have spoken,
            the same shall judge him in the last day.   KJV

,         ,         So, merely speaking against Jesus – is forgivable.
,         ,         But actually rejecting Jesus – is unforgivable.
,         ,         (Makes sense to me.)

,         ,         Whereas merely speaking against God’s Spirit – is unforgivable.
,         ,         E.G. Speaking against a healing miracle that’s obviously of God.

Biblically:

            The above two kinds of unforgivable sins
            will send someone to Hell.

Technically:

            Unforgivable sins are not sins,
            are not actions that will send someone to Hell.

                       Unforgivable sins are the heart/spirit
                        finally revealing itself, finally expressing itself.

                       Unforgivable sins are not causes but effects:
                       effects, symptoms, of the wicked.
,,        ,,        ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section:
,,        ,,        ,         ,         JESUS’ USE OF THE WORDS ‘RIGHTEOUS’ AND ‘WICKED’, , , ,

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SO, WHY DID JESUS PHRASE THEM:
AS SINS,
AS CAUSES, NOT EFFECTS?

So, why did Jesus phrase unforgivable sins:

            as sins
            not as self-expression,

            as causes of punishment to come
            not as effects of bad hearts/spirits.

Because:
X)  The world has limited resources.
      And we each have concentric circles of selfishness
      and have to earn what we get.
,         Perhaps see earlier sections: WHY IS THE UNIVERSE SECOND CLASS?
,         and, immediately after it:
,         IN WHAT WAYS DID GOD MAKE THE UNIVERSE SECOND CLASS? . 


                 So the world is very different from
                 the creative, constructive, self-sacrificing, generous, God
                 and his abundant kingdom of Heaven.
,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section: MORE KINGDOMS.
,         ,         ,         Though also see sixth cell
,         ,         ,         (starting All this makes sense only if)
,         ,         ,         of later section: GOD’S SOVEREIGNTY.


Y) During the three years of Jesus’ ministry:
                 crucifixion resurrection & Pentecost
                 had not yet happened.
      So those three years were:
                 New Testament
                 but not yet New Covenant
,         ,         ,         Perhaps see part 4)  of earlier section:
,         ,         ,         GOD DOES NOT CHANGE BUT HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH US CHANGES.


Combining X) and Y):

            During those three years, during Jesus’ ministry:
                       no-one, yet, truly understood/appreciated/‘saw’
                       God’s great mercy and grace towards us.
            But everyone still understood the world.

            Hence, so that everyone could understand God, at least a bit:
                       Jesus intuitively phrased many of his sayings
                       with the cause & effect the wrong way round,
                       the world’s way round.
,         ,         ,         ,         Hence the gospels are unlike the rest of the New Testament.


            For example: the Forgiveness-deal, in the Lord’s Prayer,
            is a piece of Old Covenant logic:
                       It has the cause & effect the wrong way round,
                       the world’s way round.
,         ,         ,         ,         See earlier section: FORGIVE US AS WE
,         ,         ,         ,         and immediately after it:
,         ,         ,         ,         WHY IS THE ABOVE IN THIS JUDGMENT COLUMN?.


            Likewise, Jesus called unforgivable sins just that, sins:
                       things you have done
                       that will cause you to be punished later.

                       Even the wicked could understand that,
                       never mind the still-worldly righteous.
,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier sections:
,         ,         ,         ,         JESUS’ USE OF THE WORDS ‘RIGHTEOUS’ AND ‘WICKED’.
,         ,         ,         ,         and:
,         ,         ,         ,         THIS APPARENT MISUNDERSTANDING IS NO ACCIDENT, , , ,

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2) NATURAL SINS

Natural sins, fleshly sins, need a body.

Hence natural sins are committed by humans, not by demons.

However:
            if a demon suggests a natural sin to you
            and you then commit it,
then the demon is gets:
            self-expression, satisfaction, ‘life’.

The demon gets self-expression:

            even though it’s only you committing it
            and the demon is merely providing suggestions.

            even though the guilt is yours
            and yours alone.

,         ,         This guilt would be only felt guilt – the Cross having already happened. 
,         ,         Perhaps see earlier webpage: How God Forgave us all.,,,

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Perhaps see earlier sections: SATAN LIKES IT HERE and: WE ARE PLAYGROUNDS,,,,,,
and the first four cells
of earlier section: THE BASIC MECHANICES, ,,,,,
and
earlier section: ANOTHER EXAMPLE: TEMPTATIONS. ,,,,,

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SINS ARE DIGITAL, NOT ANALOGUE,
AND ARE GOD’S MEASURE.

A sin does not have a size.
A sin is digital, not analogue.

            Hence a small sin is the same size as a big sin
            and a big sin is the same size as a small sin.

            Matt c5 v27-28:
            Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time,
                  Thou shalt not commit adultery:
            but I say unto you,
                  That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her
                  hath committed adultery with her already
                 in his heart.   KJV
,         ,         ,         (Committing adultery was punishable by death in Jesus’ time.)


            Matt c5 v21-22:
            Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time,
                  Thou shalt not kill;
                  and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:
            but I say unto you,
                  That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause
                  shall be in danger of the judgment:
                  and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca,
                  shall be in danger of the council:
                  but whosoever shall say, Thou fool,
                  shall be in danger of hell fire.   KJV

Sins are digital, not analogue,
because God’s task will be digital, no analogue:
            He will let that person into Heaven.
            Or he will not let that person into Heaven.

To sin  =  to miss the moral target (as in archery).
Sources: Revival Today (site gone), and Wikipedia: Hamartia.

 

            You have hit the target.
            Or you have missed the target.

Sins are God’s way of measuring us.

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Social/cultural/civil/legal wrongs 
(horizontal, human to human)
are analogue:
            hence they vary greatly
            from huge & serious
            to
            tiny & of little importance.

Sins
(vertical, us to God)
are digital:
            hence your smallest sin,
            in God’s eyes & mind,
            ruins you.

A social/cultural/civil/legal wrong
is a practical, useful, form of measurement:
            by one human
            of another human.

A sin
is an impractical, useless, form of measurement:
            by one human
            of another human.

Sins are God’s way of measuring us.

Perhaps see earlier sections:
THE TWO ACCOUNTS
and:
CONCLUSION TO THE TWO ACCOUNTS, , , ,

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TECHNICALLY SPEAKING:
SINS NO LONGER EXIST

Most of us have, to some degree,
done wrong to others.

Most of us have also got angry
at wrongs done to us & to others.

God rarely gets involved in human affairs.
But he has opinions on all of them.
And his standards are high, indeed perfect.
Perhaps see Bible texts in earlier section:
BUT, INSTEAD, FIRST OF ALL, JESUS SEEMED TO MAGNIFY JEWISH LAWS.


Hence all our wrongs against each other
also offend our designer & maker.
All our wrongs against each other
are also sins.

Hence, technically speaking, we each have two accounts:

      1.   Our horizontal account, with the world:
            a debt of – social/cultural/civil/civil/legal wrongs.

      2.   Our vertical account, with God:
            a debt of – sins.

Our  social/cultural/civil/legal wrongs  are against people.

Our  sins  are against God.

But, two-thousand years ago,
God settled all our with-him accounts
using his Son’s willing self-sacrifice in our place.

So, now, our sins do not exist.
So, now, God cannot see them.

      So   our  social/cultural/civil/civil/legal wrongs   still exist,
      but   our  sins   do not exist.

      But do you believe it
      and do you believe it applies to you?
      Or do you insist on keeping your own righteousness?

,         Hence, technically speaking, the sinner’s prayer is wrong:
,         ,         It should not be:
,         ,         ,         God, please Forgive me for my sins.
,         ,         It should be:
,         ,         ,         God, thank you for having already Forgiven
,         ,         ,         all of us, all of our sins, via the Cross.
,         ,         ,         I am one of those who believes it.

You might say:
      “Sins no longer exist in God’s eyes.
      But surely they still exist in our eyes.”

I say:
      “Sin is a word for God’s purposes only.
,         Perhaps see earlier section:
,         SINS ARE DIGITAL, NOT ANALOGUE, AND ARE GOD’S MEASURE.


      What we call   sins
      are usually   social/cultural/civil/legal wrongs.
      But I’ll still often use the word   sin
      as indeed the New Testament often does.”

Sins are:
            always wrong, never right,
            usually bad, rarely good.

Wrongs are, likewise:
            always wrong, never right,
            usually bad, rarely good.

Perhaps see earlier section:
GOOD & BAD, RIGHT & WRONG. , , , , ,

All this section is copied from earlier section: THE TWO ACCOUNTS, , , ,

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WHY CHRISTIANS AVOID SINNING

I’m sure there are more, but I can think of
at least seven reasons why a believer would want to not sin:

      1)  Because a believer is grateful for:
                  o    God’s Forgiveness (by way of the Cross).
                 o    Miracles, healings, & blessings, in this life.
                 o    The help of God’s indwelling Holy Spirit.

                 o    A perfect, eternal, life to come.
                 o    The joy that all the above brings.
                 o    Etc.

      2)  Because a believer wants to do good, even miraculous good,
            as a matter of self-expression.
,         ,         Expression of your entire self, heart/spirit and soul
,         ,         (soul = mind + emotions + cultures).


      3)  Because if you, a believer, do sin
            then it gives demons the opportunity to
            telepathically accuse you of that sin    Rev c12 v10
            in order to trick you into being defensive:
                       into thinking, even saying,
                       that you did not do something wrong.    1 John c1 v8-10

                       Hence, for that crucial moment:
                             You forget, in your mind,
                              that God has put all of us right with himself.
                             Hence belief becomes inactive in your mind
                             and remains active in only your heart/spirit.
,         ,         ,         ,                  Perhaps also see later section: UNBELIEF and its subsections.
,         ,         ,         ,                  and
,         ,         ,         ,                  later section: SIN CONSCIOUSNESS.


                        Hence, perhaps because
                       you are entangled in sin,  Heb c12 v1,

                       demons can give you a sickness, 
                       or succeed in encouraging you
                       to accept a natural sickness.

                       John c5 v14:
                        Afterward Jesus findeth him in the temple,
                        and said unto him,
                             Behold, thou art made whole:
                             sin no more,
                              lest a worse thing come unto thee.   KJV

                       Luke c13 v16:
                       And ought not this woman,
                       being a daughter of Abraham,
                       whom Satan hath bound, lo, these eighteen years,
                       be loosed from this bond on the sabbath day?   KJV

                       Matt c9 v32-33    Matt c12 v22    Luke c11 v14
                        Jesus healed a man of dumbness
                        by casting out a demon from him.   my abbn

,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section:
,         ,         ,         ,         HOW DEMONS ARE ABLE TO DO THINGS, 
,         ,         ,         ,         and earlier section:
,         ,         ,         ,         SO, – WHERE DO TODAY’S BAD THINGS COME FROM?


      4)  Because sinning:
                       Still allows mere happiness into your soul
                       from the outside.
                       But stops your heart/spirit copying its joy into your soul
                       from the inside.
,         ,         ,         ,         See third cell of earlier section:
,         ,         ,         ,         NATURAL BEAUTY & SPIRITUAL BEAUTY., , , ,
,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier webpage:
,         ,         ,         ,         The spirit & the soul., , , ,


      5)  Because sins may bring:
                       felt guilt
,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section: THE GUILT WE FEEL.

                       and, if the sin is a crime, a prison sentence.

      6)  Because, technically speaking:
                       even though sins no longer exist,
                       wrongs still still exist
,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps again see earlier section:
,         ,         ,         ,         TECHNICALLY SPEAKING: SINS NO LONGER EXIST.

                       and God’s Spirit,
                       who is inside you if you are a believer,
                       is grieved if you do wrong.  Eph c4 v22-32

                       The Cross has put all of us right with his Father.
                       Hence the Father can, and has,
                       given his powerful Holy Spirit to all of us.
                       So, make your mind a ‘house’
                       that’s uncluttered by:
                                   sinful ways,
                                   unbelief (doubts),
                                   earthly distractions,
                                   etc,
                       and God’s miracle-empowering Holy Spirit
                       can live in every room.

      7) In light of 1) – 6), it’s not surprising that
            sinning works against
            your heart/spirit renewing your mind.
,         ,         Perhaps follow RENEW MIND links
,         ,         in second cell
,         ,         of later section: THE NEW YOU (this link does not open a new tab).

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            Of course ‘believers’
            (churchgoers who do not, actually, yet believe)
            avoid sinning in order to:
                       get themselves right with God
                       or
                       stay right with God.

,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section: WHY BIBLICAL TEACHER-HEALERS DO IT
,         ,         ,         ,         and all that follows on that webpage.

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GOD’S WORDS ON SIN

There are laws, in the Old Testament of the Bible,
that say that many activities, e.g. homosexual behaviour,
are punishable by death.  Lev c20 v9-16.

However, there is also a law, in the Old Testament,
that says that to pick up sticks on a Saturday
is punishable by death.
Exo c31 v12-15  &  Exo c35 v1-2  &  Num c15 v32-36  combined.

Fortunately, Old Testament laws don’t apply to Christians anyway.
Perhaps see earlier section: JEWISH LAWS ARE NOT FOR GENTILES
and
section later in that webpage:
SO, BE CAREFUL NOT TO ENTER INTO THE OLD COVENANT
and perhaps the whole of that webpage.


Hence, regarding Christian behaviour,
I’ll ignore the Old Testament.

However, the New Testament
also says that homosexual behaviour
should not be allowed amongst Christians.
Rom c1 v26-27     1 Cor c6 v9-11    1 Tim c1 v8-11     Jude.
If Paul’s ‘lack of free will’ thinking bothers you
then see earlier section: SEEING HEARTS/SPIRITS.)


But, on inspection, these New Testament scriptures
are mostly about anarchy & homosexual promiscuity.
And homosexual promiscuity, being less than human,
is something right-thinking homosexuals also think wrong.

(Just like right-thinking heterosexuals also think
that heterosexual promiscuity
is less than human, and therefore wrong.)

Mind you, the above New Testament verses
at least partly condemn homosexuality.

However, in the light of my, & others’, evidence
that the origin of homosexuality is natural,
(more about that shortly)

I suggest that the New Testament does not show
that homosexuality is a sin.

      Homosexuality is wrong:
            from a design point of view,
            from a non-subjective point of view,
            from an outsider’s point of view.

      But homosexuality is not a choice:
            So it’s not a sin.
,,        ..        More about choice shortly.

,,        ,,        Perhaps see earlier section:
,,        ,,        TECHNICALLY SPEAKING: SINS NO LONGER EXIST. , , ,

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For the most authoritative point of view on sin
let’s see what Jesus said.
 
N.B. I think that Jesus, being God’s only begotten Son,
told God’s thoughts more authoritatively
than other parts of the Bible tell God’s thoughts.

So, where there is any difference, in letter or in spirit,
between what Jesus says and what other parts say:
            the Jesus parts are right
            and the other parts are wrong.

 

I don’t mean Old / New Covenant differences, differences that should be there.
(Perhaps see earlier section: THE LORD’S PRAYER, and the links within it.)
(This link does not open a new tab.)

 

Blue text copied from earlier section: MY ATTITUDE TO THE BIBLE. , , ,

During the three years leading up to the Cross,
while sins still existed,
,,        ,,        Perhaps again see earlier section:
,,        ,,        TECHNICALLY SPEAKING: SINS NO LONGER EXIST. , , ,

God the Son, God incarnate,
God in human form, Jesus:

            Forgave people their sins on an individual basis, 
            dealt with people on an individual basis,
            did not Forgive everyone.   Luke c23 v39-43 , , ,

,,        ,,        Jesus’ Crucifixion was God Forgiving everyone.
,,        ,,        See earlier section: WE CHOOSE WHERE WE GO – BY FORGIVENESS. ,, , ,

            Even though, when on Earth,
            Jesus dealt with many people,
            there is only one instance where he
            told someone to stop sinning.
            And even that was only to stop the person
            suffering further.   John c5 v5-14,,,,,

,         ,         I ignore John c8 v3-11, where Jesus tells a woman, caught committing adultery, 
,         ,         to stop sinning.  I ignore it because I reckon it’s forged.
,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section: BIBLE VERSES THAT I OMIT.  


            Other than that one instance, Jesus never told people
            to stop sinning:

                       He only ever:
                                   proved he was God
                                   &:
                                   accepted them.

                       They then:
                                   spontaneously changed
                                   e.g.  Luke c19 v1-10   Luke c7 v36-50.


,,        ,         ,         ,         ,         ,         Jesus did lecture the ‘religious’,
,,        ,         ,         ,         ,         ,         but to no effect.   Matt c21 v23-46     Matt c23,,,,,

Jesus did not condemn the sexually immoral to Hell.
Mark c14 v1-9     Luke c15     John c4 v1-42 

But he did condemn those who judge others, as if they were God,
to Hell.     Matt c23 See v33.     Matt c5 v20,,,,,

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You may want more than ‘merely’ to be accepted by God.
You may also want to:

      a)   o    Get demons out of you.
,         ,         ,         Perhaps get help, see earlier webpage: A better site than this one. 
            o    Do miracles, in Jesus’ name.
,         ,         ,         ‘Do’ is the verb used in the KJV.

If so, then you’ll have to:

      b)  o    Ask for God’s powerful Spirit.  See: Luke c11 v9-13. ,,,
            o    Renew your mind so that he can live in:
                       Every room of your mind
                       without you getting in his way.
                       Every area of your life
                       without you ever saying “No”.

                 A renewed mind causes you to:
                       Live morally purely
                       (not harm yourself morally).
                       Love everyone, even those who hate you.
                       Forgive everyone, even those who’ve hurt you.
                       Pray for good things, for anyone.
                       Always do what’s right.
,         ,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section:
,         ,         ,         ,         GOOD & BAD, RIGHT & WRONG. 

And you can only do a) and b) by realising that:

            o    Jesus has already lived that way
                 as an example for us to follow

and realising that:

            o    Jesus is human yet God,
                 the Son of a woman and God,
                 and suffered and died in place of all of us
                 thus putting the rest of us humans right with his Father,
                 earning all of us his Father’s Forgiveness.

            Hence:

                 o    Jesus made his Father our Father too
                       so that he is willing to give us good things
                       when we ask him for them.   Matt c7 v7-12,,,,

                 o    The Father was able to give
                       all humans his Holy Spirit.

,         ,         ,         ,         The Holy Spirit is not only holy, he is also powerful,
,         ,         ,         ,         and enables us to do miracles.
,         ,         ,         ,         See five cells (starting Jesus explains)
,         ,         ,         ,         in earlier section: WHY GOD’S WORDS HAVE POWER.
,         ,         ,         ,         and the links within them.
,         ,         ,         ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)

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THE ORIGIN OF HOMOSEXUALITY ETC

An animal has a personality that is mostly shaped by its body:
            Tigers are aggressive.
            Rabbits are timid.
            Alligators are not to be messed with.
            Etc.

But a human has a personality
that grows independently of the body,
does not always match the growing body:

            A delicately built woman may have a forceful personality.
            A big muscley man may have a sensitive personality.

            Likewise the sexual psychology may not match the body
            hence some people are homosexual.

            Why should our brains always match our bodies?

            Unlike animals, we humans artificially preserve
            a staggering variety of genes in our gene pool.

            Animal generations automatically tend to preserve
            only the most successful genes:
                       Zebras daren’t change their camouflage stripes.
                       Giraffes daren’t shorten their tree reaching necks.
                       Etc.

            But we humans are eternal.
            So we became alpha predators.       See early webpages.

            So, without genetic restrictions:
                       our gene pool became unnaturally large
                       and unnaturally random.

This train of thought is repeated, and continued, later on in this webpage.

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DESIGN

God designed:
      the material of the universe
            therefore of nature
                 therefore of us
as second class.

,         ,         Perhaps again see earlier section:
,         ,         WHY IS THE UNIVERSE SECOND CLASS?
,         ,         and immediately after it:
,         ,         IN WHAT WAYS DID GOD MAKE THE UNIVERSE SECOND CLASS?.


We, unwittingly, forced God
to make the universe second class.

,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section:
,         ,         IT’S BECAUSE OF US THAT GOD IS THREE PERSONS. ,,,,,


,         ,         Perhaps also see earlier section:
,         ,         SO, WHERE DO TODAY’S BAD THINGS COME FROM. ,,,,,

Hence God:
            Does not much like nature,
            sees nature as second class
            (as indeed it actually is).

            Many people have nature as their main framework,
            or even their only framework,
            or they even idolise nature.
            But that’s only because they don’t yet know God.
,         ,         Perhaps see later section: IDOLATRY & its subsections.

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God designed:
            the material of the universe
                 therefore of nature
                       therefore of us
to produce two biological sexes
to perpetuate and increase humanity.

But a homosexual couple:
            Cannot produce children.
            (Hence nature produces
            only a small percentage of homosexuals.)

,         ,         Consider: Wikipedia: Fraternal birth order and male sexual orientation.,,,


            And their relationship is not the same
            as the relationship their bodies were designed for.
            Their minds match each other
            but their bodies do not.

            So homosexuality is wrong:
                 from a design point of view,
                 from a non-subjective point of view,
                 from an outsider’s point of view.

            But homosexuality is not a choice:
                 So it’s not a sin.
,         ,         ,         More about choice shortly.

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MORE ON HOMOSEXUALITY

Some people become homosexuals
because of extreme circumstances in childhood.

            If circumstances made you homosexual 
            then circumstances (e.g. counselling) can reverse it.
            YouTube: – Former LGBTQers Testify:

,         ,         If You No Longer Want to Be Gay or Transgender,

,         ,         You Don’t Have to Be.,,,,,

 

But, if homosexuality was already in you,
then the only way to change it
is by a miracle.  Mark c9 v23,,,,,

In this website, it’s those who have always been homosexual
that I focus on.

            Either they’re all lying, or it’s a very odd wrong.

            For none of them can manage to become heterosexual
            even under threat of death in some Muslim countries.

            And, in the west, those who become Christians,
            and so want to become heterosexual,
            find that they can’t.

            They either marry, if that’s allowed . .

                       YouTube: – God and the Gay Christian:
                                       The Biblical Case in Support of Same Sex Relationships. , , , ,
,         ,         ,         ,         I’d say ‘Same Sex Marriage’, rather than ‘Same Sex Relationships’.

,         ,         ,         ,         YouTube: – The Journey of a Gay Christian:
                                       A Short Documentary by Kyle Williamson. , , , ,

            . . or they become celibate:

                       I.E. Decide never to have another sexual relationship
                       even though they remain same-sex attracted.
,         ,         ,         ,         Becket Cook, who is celibate, says the attraction diminishes.

 

,         ,         ,         ,         YouTube: – The Gospel and LGBTQ |
,         ,         ,         ,         Becket Cook | LifePoint Church. , ,

 

,         ,         ,         ,         YouTube: – Christopher Yuan -
,         ,         ,         ,         A Christian Response to Homosexuality. , , , ,

To conclude:

            Miracles aside, homosexuality is not
            a thing you can switch off.

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            The apostle Peter was psychopathic:

            Peter, though standing next to Jesus
            and having heard all of Jesus’ preaching
            on loving your enemies,
            tried to cut someone’s head off.
                 Though Peter was a fisherman, he had a sword,
                 and cut off the ear of one of those sent to arrest Jesus.
                 He was probably aiming for the head or neck
                 since it’s hard to cut off an ear.
                  And the sword was sharp
                 so Jesus’ command to stop was timely.
                 John c18 v10-11  and:  Luke c22 v35-38  &  v47-51  combined.

            Acts c5 v1-10:
            Peter, by the power of God’s Spirit,
            punished Ananias & Sapphira, for lying to God,
            by making them drop down dead.  my abbreviation

,         ,         Perhaps see later section:
,         ,         GOD’S KIND OF LOVE (AGAPE LOVE)
                   AND MERE HUMAN, NATURAL, LOVE
,         ,         and its subsection,
,         ,         and the links within them.
,         ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)


            So Peter, when he was a new Christian,
            was not the kind of person that most Christians today
            would invite round for tea.
            Ask him to heal your sick or raise your dead.
            Acts c3 v1-8     Acts c9 v32-43 
            But, other than that, not let him into the house.
,         ,         Though, in all fairness of course, only the guilty have anything to hide.

,                  Perhaps again see later section:

,                  MORE ABOUT PETER, PAUL, & PSYCHOPATHY ETC.,,,,,

            Peter had already been changed, by God’s Spirit,  Acts c2 – c 3,
            when, by the power of God’s Spirit,
            he killed Ananias & Sapphira.
            Either that or he approved of God doing it.  Acts c5 v1-10  

,         ,         Stephen, conversely, was more like Jesus.
,         ,         By the power of God’s Spirit
,         ,         Stephen did only good miracles.  Acts c6 – c7,,,,,


            But, happily, Peter eventually mellowed & quietened down.
,         ,         Perhaps see second cell (starting For example: with the perspective)
,         ,         of earlier section: THE EFFECT OF THE BIBLE WRITERS ON THEIR OWN WRITING. 
,         ,         Perhaps also see Peter’s epistles:  1 Pet c1 – c5   and   2 Pet c1 – c3. ,,,


            So, Peter must have gradually changed,
            must have managed his psychopathy.

            Indeed, he even eventually loved people
            with an agape love.
            (His epistles are brilliant.)

,         ,         Perhaps also see the two cells (starting Peter, before & after)
,         ,         of later section: GOD’S KIND OF LOVE (AGAPE LOVE)
,         ,         AND MERE HUMAN, NATURAL, LOVE.

            Here’s my point.

            I reckon that there are things about us,
            like:
                       o    Psychopathy.
                       o    Autism.
                       o    Asperger’s.
                       o    & many other human qualities.
            that:
                       o    Are natural in origin
                             even though they have no natural purpose.
                       o    You cannot get rid of if you wanted to.
                             So you accept it, see it as part of you.
                             So you manage it.
            and that homosexuality is one of those things.

To conclude: homosexuals:

            o    Though very different from most people,
                 are people,
                 and therefore deserve:
                             equal dignity,
                             equal status,
                             and equal acceptance.
            o    Conversely, they should not,
                 because they are homosexuals,
                 be feared or bullied.
            o    Cannot change others.
            o    Cannot even change themselves.

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A practicing homosexual can be:
            a Christian,
            saved,
            destined for Heaven and knows it.

For Christianity is not about your performance.

            Christianity is about you believing that:
                       God has Forgiven all sins
                       by way of Jesus’ crucifixion.
                       I.E. God has put all of us right with himself.

            And, due to believing the above,
            you change:
                       Become ever more constructive.
                       And, renewing your mind, & having God’s Spirit,
                       ever more potent in that constructiveness.

But, though you can stay a practicing homosexual,
you won’t want to stay a practicing homosexual.

Not in your heart/spirit:

            In your heart/spirit you will want to change.

            (Actually, we all change anyway, radically,
            when we become believers, and from then on.)

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GAY CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

Should a homosexual couple
be allowed to marry in church?

           I don’t know:

           However, we:
                 o    XY & XX chromosomes,
                 o    heterosexual,
                 o    cisgender,
                 o    the majority,
           people, have designed the world around ourselves.
,,       ,,        Perhaps see chart, BODY & BRAIN & MIND later on this webpage.


            So, if a homosexual couple want to marry in church
            because they are believers,
            and the leaders are satisfied that they are believers,
            yet they are not allowed, if we’re honest,
            for the above 4 reasons,
            then I suggest that’s tribalism
            rather than God.

You may say:
           But Jesus said married couples must be male and female.
           Matt c19 v1-12    Mark c10 v1-12.,,,,,


I say:
           Jesus was principally teaching that easy divorce is wrong.
           He was not also thinking about sexual orientation.

           Would the risen Jesus:
                       therefore after Pentecost,
                       therefore squarely in New Covenant times,
           have ever said,
           to Paul or to John,
           that homosexual marriage is acceptable to God?

           We don’t know.

           Even gay believers disagree on gay marriage.
           Becket Cook & Christopher Yuan
           hate the title gay believer:
                 See themselves as only believers.
                 See their increasingly-ex-homosexuality
                 as incompatible
                 with their new identity in Christ.

,        ,         ,         Perhaps see two cells, starting (They either marry)
,        ,         ,         in previous section:

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            Assuming marriage has been possible,
            then a married homosexual couple who believes:
                       because they believe,
                       will definitely go to Heaven.

            For Christianity is not about your performance.

            Christianity is about you believing that:
                       God has Forgiven all sins
                       by way of Jesus’ crucifixion.
                       I.E. God has put all of us right with himself.

            But a married homosexual who believes,
            and has renewed their mind,
            may yet find their homosexuality

            to be a distraction,
            a form of doubt,
            of unbelief,
,         ,         Perhaps see first two cells of later section:
,         ,         UNBELIEF IS A BREAK IN THE CIRCUIT.,,,,,

           that hinders their prayers & commands.

         ,         Perhaps again see five cells (starting Jesus explains)
,        ,         in earlier section: WHY GOD’S WORDS HAVE POWER.
,        ,         and the links within them.
,        ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)

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Church is no place to ‘be yourself’:
Unless, of course, you’ve renewed your mind.

 
            It would be wrong, in a church meeting, for:
                       a heterosexual Christian man to swagger,
                       a Christian woman to promote her charms,
                       a gay Christian man to flirt.

            We are all there only because:
                       a man, whose parents were God and a woman,
                       was willing to be slowly tortured to death
                       to make the rest of us humans
                       become, in his Father’s eyes & mind,
                       as if we’d never done wrong.

            The Father’s & Son’s act of love towards us
            was brutal, bloody, and effective.

            The resulting powerful Holy Spirit’s indwelling of us
            is gentle, polite, and produces miracles.

            Speaking & singing at church
            is a distinct opportunity
            to focus on the above three persons of God.

            Hence it’s wrong when we waste that opportunity
            by focussing on our love for each other
            which is what I suspect happens in some LGBT Churches.

            Human love for each other & kindness towards each other:

                       Means much in the world
                       but little to God.

                       It has not saved us
                       and will not miraculously bless & heal us.
 
                       But his love for us does both.

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CHANGING FROM
NON-HETEROSEXUAL
TO HETEROSEXUAL

            I reckon that:

                       Peter’s psychopathy.
,         ,         ,                  Section before last. 


                       And Paul’s sociopathy
,         ,         ,                  Perhaps see later section:

,         ,         ,                  MORE ABOUT PETER, PAUL, & PSYCHOPATHY ETC.,,,,,

                       & asexuality
,         ,         ,                  section after next


            were all so well meshed into their souls
            that God thought it unkind to rip them out.

,         ,         It’s one thing to have such things ripped out in the next life
,         ,         when everything else has also changed.
,         ,         But it’s quite another thing to have them ripped out in this life.

            And I reckon that God thought
            that using those qualities
            would be more effective, for ministry,
            than ripping them out
            (which proved to be the case).

            Nor did God prompt them
            to ask him to change those qualities:
            did not give them the vision for such a miracle,
            since it did not happen.

            Hence I reckon that God
            does not generally want to miraculously change
            non-heterosexuals into heterosexuals.

            However, if you want to miraculously change
            from gay to straight,
            and
            if you believe Jesus’ words, in the next four cells,
            then
            God will do it (or will tell you why not). 

            Mark c9 v23:
            Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe,
            all things are possible to him that believeth.   KJV

,         ,         Perhaps again see earlier section:
,         ,         WHY GOD’S WORDS HAVE POWER.

            Luke c17 v5-6:
            And the apostles said unto the Lord,
                 Increase our faith.
            And the Lord said,
                 If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed,
                 ye might say unto this sycamine tree,
                       Be thou plucked up by the root,
                       and be thou planted in the sea;
                 and it should obey you.   KJV

            Matt c17 v18-20   (full account  Matt c17 v14-20.):
            And Jesus rebuked the devil;
            and he departed out of him:
            and the child was cured from that very hour.
            Then came the disciples to Jesus apart, and said,
                  Why could not we cast him out?
            And Jesus said unto them,
                  Because of your unbelief:
                  for verily I say unto you,
                  If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed,
                  ye shall say unto this mountain,
                        Remove hence to yonder place;
                  and it shall remove;
                  and nothing shall be impossible unto you.   KJV

,         ,         ,         I reckon verse 21 is forged – so I haven’t included it.
,         ,         ,         Perhaps see earlier section: BIBLE VERSES THAT I OMIT.,,,,,

            Mark c11 v23-24    (Matt c21 v21-22):
            For verily I say unto you,
                 That whosoever shall say unto this mountain,
                       Be thou removed,
                       and be thou cast into the sea;
                 and shall not doubt in his heart,
                 but shall believe that those things which he saith
                 shall come to pass;
                 he shall have
                 whatsoever he saith.
            Therefore I say unto you,
                  What things soever ye desire,
                  when ye pray, believe that ye receive them,
                  and ye shall have them.   KJV

            Mark c9 v14-29: my abbreviation
            A man was glad to see Jesus.
            He told Jesus that his disciples had just failed
            to cast a demon out of his son,
            so could he, Jesus himself, help.
            Jesus was exasperated by his disciples.
            The boy was brought and the demon immediately made
            the boy fall down and foam at the mouth.
            Jesus asked how long this had been going on.
            “Since he was a child” the father said, “and the demon
            moves him towards fire or water, to try to kill him,
            so can you help us?”
            Jesus replied:
                 “If you can believe,
                   everything is possible for someone who believes.”
            And the man, cried out, with tears:
                 “Master, I believe [in my heart],
                   help me get rid of my doubts [in my mind].”
            Then, when Jesus saw crowds converging,
            he commanded the demon out and to not return.
            The boy then looked dead, but Jesus restored him.
            The disciples asked why they’d failed
            and Jesus said that they’d needed to pray.   my abbn

,         ,         Regarding this Bible text:
,         ,         ,         See the second cell (starting The book of Acts.)
,         ,         ,         of later section: PRAYING & FASTING,
,         ,         ,         and the links within it.
,         ,         ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)

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THE APOSTLE PAUL WAS ASEXUAL

Asexuality is:
            To have never been, and indeed never be,
            sexually attracted to anyone.
            To not find anything attractive about having sex
            even if your body needs it.

            It’s a natural condition,
            not caused by upbringing or environment.

            It’s a sexual orientation,
            as is heterosexuality and homosexuality.

About one percent of the world is asexual.
Perhaps see: YouTube: – David Jay - Asexuality. , , , ,

Asexuality
and heterosexual demisexuality
Perhaps see: YouTube: – Demisexuality in Under 4 Minutes | hmm.... , , , ,

are as conducive to being a Christian
as heterosexuality.

Perhaps even more so:

            Regarding asexuality.
               See later section: MARRY OR STAY SINGLE? ,,,


            If king David had been heterosexually demisexual,
            (instead of just heterosexual)
            he wouldn’t have committed adultery.   2 Sam c11. ,,,
               Perhaps see later chart: BODY & BRAIN & MIND. ,,,

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Paul’s asexuality is revealed in  1 Cor c7:

            If Paul’s effortless singleness
            was a gift, from God,
            that he had asked for:
                       Then, as well as writing that he wished others had it,
                       he would also have written that they could have it.
                       But he didn’t.

            If Paul’s effortless singleness
            was a gift, from God,
            that God had simply given to Paul
            without him asking:
                       Then Paul would have told of such an enabling gift.
,         ,         ,         ,         Like he told of his enabling Damascus road experience.
,         ,         ,         ,         (Acts c9 v1-22)   Acts c22 v1-16   Gal c1 , , , ,

                       But he didn’t.

            Therefore Paul’s gift of effortless singleness
            was asexuality:
                       a natural gift
                       that he’d always had.

            That Paul’s singleness was not a gift from God
            explains how he found it easy to write,
            without explanation or justification:
            1 Tim c4 v1-3: 
            The doctrine ‘People should not marry’
            is the doctrine of demons.   my abbreviation

            Hence also, Paul’s marital advice was:
                       Of God, and wise.
                       But objective, not subjective:

                       Hence Paul called married sex a duty.
                       See: Bible Hub 1 Corinthians 7:3.,,,,,
                        See: 1 Corinthians 7:3 Greek Text Analysis - Bible Hub.,,

            Hence, also, Paul writes that he would prefer
            all men to be single, not married.
            Though he did add that we are all different.  1 Cor c7 v5-7,,,,

            His gift of asexuality meant that,
            in licentious ancient Greece, where Paul preached,
            he was sexually bullet proof.
            A very useful gift.

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POLYGAMY, DATING, & PORNOGRAPHY.

A polygamous marriage
is where a man has more than one wife (or vice versa).

Polygamy is wrong because it:
            increases the marriage’s earthly complexity
            but decreases its Godlike complexity:

            1)  The marriage cannot become a special relationship
                 because there are many relationships.
,         ,,        ,         Perhaps see earlier section: GOOD & BAD, RIGHT & WRONG.

,         ,,        ,         (Likewise, very many children sharing their father figure.)


            2)  The marriage makes possible, even probable,
                 spoken or unspoken:
                             favourites, rivalries, & jealousies,
                             within the marriage.

The above two problems would still be there even in old age:
            when the bond of sex may be less/absent
            but intimacy would still be needed.

You may say: “What about King David.
He wrote many of the Psalms in the Bible
yet he had many wives?”
I say: “His lust for yet another woman drove him to murder.  2 Sam c11 – c12 v25.“

You may say: “What about king Solomon, king of Israel.
He’s in the Bible, favourably, and he had many wives?”
I say: “Ecclesiastes c6  shows he didn’t really know God.”

Perhaps also see:
Polygamy in the Bible (and What Jesus Said about It). ,,,,,

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The above cell also explains the wrongness of:

            multiple sexual partners simultaneously:
                       o    a man/woman having more than one
                             girlfriend/boyfriend,
                       o    an open marriage,

            multiple sexual partners chronologically:
                       o    repeatedly casually divorcing & remarrying,
                       o    having sequential girlfriends/boyfriends,
                       o    sexually-active dating.


You may say:
            “Surely living together, as man and wife,
            but without the bit of paper, is OK with God.”
I say:
            “That’s merely one, or the both, of you
            keeping the back door open for a quick getaway.”

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Pornography is a portrayal of loveless sexual relationships
that are temporary & shallow.
Porn is a carnal version of Heaven.

Those who don’t yet know God may see that as a compliment.
But those who know God know that porn lowers you.

      Just like:
                 Earth is lower than Heaven.
                 Imperfection is lower than perfection.
                 Selfishness is lower than love.
      so also:
                 Pornography is lower than a covenant marriage,
                 a “for better or for worse” marriage.


,,        ,,        ,,        A contract is a conditional promise.
,,        ,,        ,,        A covenant is an unconditional promise.

Jesus certainly implied that singles watching pornography
is wrong.  Matt c5 v27-28 

This also implies that, with masturbation,
it’s the morality of the fantasies
that’s the thing to watch out for.

Many a Christian* has found that watching porn
(being a wrongdoing that can reach deep into your soul)
is an invitation to the demon who follows you around
to interfere in your life
or the life of those close to you.

(I say Many a *Christian because
demons are more likely to target believers than unbelievers.
Like soldiers are more likely to target enemy combatants
before they get shot themselves.)

Some individuals, who are married,
privately say that pornography makes up
for what their marriage lacks.
And some married couples use pornography jointly.
Hence both groups may say
that porn is, ironically, helping their marriage.

But I suggest that, instead of porn:

,,        ,,        If you’re not as young &/or attractive as you’d like:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Have sex with the lights down.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Make it sensual.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Perhaps see Marriage Bed tips. ,,,


,,        ,,        If you are both attractive:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Secure mirrors to the walls (& ceiling).
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Make it visual.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Perhaps see Married Christian sex // role play. ,,,

We are not animals.  So it makes no sense for a married couple
to limit themselves to activities that the body alone was designed for.

Realise that marriage is not primarily about:
      what you do
but:
      why you do it.   1 Cor c13 NIV,,,,,   

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Don’t forget to read the last section on this webpage:
WHY THROW AWAY THE PRESENTS.,,,,,

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TRANSGENDERISM

Recent discoveries have meant that
the word gender has become:
more useful in a new role
than in the old role.
 

      It used to be that, of:
                 biology, or orientation, or identity,
      gender was connected to only:
                 biology.

      Hence, just as there are two biologies (disregarding intersex),
      so also there used to be two genders:
                 1)   a woman’s: ways, clothes, jobs, pastimes, etc,
                 2)   a man’s: ways, clothes, jobs, pastimes, etc.


      But now, regarding:
                 biology, or orientation, or identity,
      gender is connected to only:
                 identity.

      Hence there are now four basic genders:
                 1)   cisgender,
                 2)   transgender,
                 3)   non-binary,
                 4)   agender.

BODY
& BRAIN:
an object.

MIND:
a pattern within an object,
a pattern within the brain.

BIOLOGY.
The object is
distinguished
early in pregnancy.

ORIENTATION.
Whatever its beginnings
the pattern has grown
as you have grown.

IDENTITY.
Whatever its beginnings
the pattern has grown
as you have grown.

Man.
XY chromosomes.

Woman.
XX chromosomes. 

 

Intersex.
A natural
combination of:
parts of a man
and
parts of a woman.

An intersex
woman may
have male, XY,
chromosomes,
e.g. Emily Quinn.

Or the
chromosomes
may be a
complex mix.
Famous people
with klinefelter
syndrome..,,,,,

Also see:
YouTube: –
Secret Intersex:
Neither Boy
Nor Girl
(Medical
Documentary)
| Real Stories..,,,,,

Heterosexual.

Sexually attracted to
body & mind
of opposite biology,

& opposite gender,
to yours.

 

Homosexual.

Sexually attracted to
body & mind
of same biology,
& perhaps same
gender, as yours.

 

Bisexual.

Sexually attracted to
body & mind
of either biology
& any gender.

 

Pansexual.

Sexually attracted to
only the mind
of either biology
& any gender.

 

Demisexual.

Sexually attracted to
first the mind
then maybe the body
of either biology
& any gender.

 

Asexual.

Not sexually attracted
to anyone.

Cisgender.

A manliness
that matches
your man’s body.

A womanliness
that matches
your woman’s body.

Transgender.

A manliness
that clashes with
your woman’s body.

A womanliness
that clashes with
your man’s body.

 

Non-binary.

0–max manliness
plus
0–max womanliness.

Non-binary is to
gender, in the mind,
what intersex is to
biology, in the body.
(Except you don’t get
max male biology
plus
max female biology.)

Agender.

Zero manliness
& zero womanliness.

I made this chart because it’s more practical than the spectrum diagrams.

I reckon that, if you are
a straight man, or a straight woman,
and you were asked, on a form, or on the phone,
      “Are you male or female?”
and you responded correctly,
that you probably thought that you’d responded
because of your body.

But not so.

You didn’t think: “I’ve seen, or felt, my body.”
 
You’d think: “I know I’m a man because I like being a nerd
but I’m determined to get on with the girls”
or “because I look good in a suit but I have a comb-over”.

Likewise: “I know I’m a woman
because I’m a sharp teen who thinks men are stupid”
or “because of my family life & my kids.”

Where did all this angst, or joy, or satisfaction, or etc, come from?
It’s not in your body; your body doesn’t care less.
It’s in your mind.

You responded that you’re a man, or a woman:
            Not because of your body now.
            But because of a large identity
            that you’ve been slowly building in your mind.

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You may also think that you must be
a heterosexual man, or a heterosexual woman,
because:

            Whatever designed & made your body
            (be it God or nature)
            also designed & made
            (at least the beginnings of) your brain.

            So he/it must surely have made them
            match each other.

But I say that’s just a coincidence:

An animal has a personality
that is mostly shaped by its body:
            Tigers are aggressive.
            Rabbits are timid.
            Alligators are not to be messed with.
            Etc.

But a human has a personality
that grows independently of the body,
does not always match the growing body:

            A delicately built woman may have a forceful personality.
            A big muscley man may have a sensitive personality.

            Likewise the sexual psychology may not match the body
            hence some people are homosexual.

            Why should our brains always match our bodies?

            Unlike animals, we humans artificially preserve
            a staggering variety of genes in our gene pool.

            Animal generations automatically tend to preserve
            only the most successful genes:
                       Zebras daren’t change their camouflage stripes.
                       Giraffes daren’t shorten their tree reaching necks.
                       Etc.

            But we humans are eternal.
            So we became alpha predators.       See early webpages.

            So, without genetic restrictions:
                       our gene pool became unnaturally large
                       and unnaturally random.

            To conclude:

                       Biological sex forms in the body.

                       Sexual orientation forms in the brain.

                       Gender identity forms in the brain.

            Usually the three coincide.
            But not always.

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Transgender people are those
whose gender is opposite to their biology.
Many transgenders are quite happy
just to wear the wrong clothes
(well, for them, the clothes are right).

Wikipedia: Transgender.,,,,,
There are very few transgender people globally,
only 0.1% to 0.6% .
 
Transgender Population Size in the United States:
a Meta-Regression of Population-Based Probability Samples. ,,,,,

An official count, in the US, makes it 0.33% .


It’s not only the USA that has transgenders:

,     ,     YouTube: – Third gender in India.
,         ,         Hijras, the Kinnars daughters. ,,,,,

,     ,     The Hijra are India’s historic, nationally recognised,
,     ,     distinct community of transgender & intersex people.


,     ,     YouTube: – ‘I’dentity – A documentary on
,         ,         Gender Identity Disorder | LGBTQ | Gazel Dhaliwal.,,,,,
,     ,     This documentary is about Indians who are transgender:
                        and, don’t only transition
                       (strictly speaking: transition means
                       merely living the opposite lifestyle)
                       but also surgically transition.

,     ,     THE DIPLOMAT: Meet the Khwaja Sira:
,         ,         Pakistan’s Transgender Community.,,,,,

,         ,         YouTube: – The LGBT influencers facing arrest
,         ,         in Saudi Arabia • The Observers - France 24.,,,,,

,         ,         YouTube: – Explained: What it's really like to be trans in China.,,,,,

It was the above:
,         Two technical sites.
,         Five YouTubes videos – spead out over the globe.
that proved to me that transgenderism is real
and started me writing this section.

People in Islamic countries wouldn’t make this up
knowing it could get them executed.

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Some transgenders have a condition called gender dysphoria.

            Gender dysphoria is:
                 1.   an absolute need to change biological sex
                 2.   that’s never going to go away.
            (Predicting 2. is the clever bit.)


            Perhaps see: NHS Gender dysphoria. ,,,,  


Changing sex physically, with hormones & surgery, 
(as best as physical sex can be changed)
is, logically:
            Not satisfactorily reversible if it turns out to be a mistake.
            Not without risks even if it’s the right thing to do.
,         ,         YouTube: – Why I’m Not Getting “The Surgery”.,,,

 

            Hence only those with gender dysphoria
            should surgically transition.

Extremely few people have gender dysphoria.

 

            Wikipedia: Gender dysphoria.,,,

            Globally, it’s only:
                 0.01% male-to-female
                 0.0025% female-to-male.
,         ,         ,         See: Epidemiology, a quarter the way down the Wikipedia webpage.

            So, only:
                       3% of transgender women (male-to-female)
                       have
                       gender dysphoria

            & only:
                       0.8% of transgender men (female-to-male)
                       have
                       gender dysphoria.

Bruce Jenner, now Caitlyn Jenner, had gender dysphoria.
YouTube: – The True Story Of How Bruce Jenner Became Caitlyn Jenner., 


Back when he was a man, he had it treated (if that’s the word)
by having himself transitioned, using hormones & surgery.

As well as being an example of surgically transitioning,
Bruce, now Caitlyn, shows us the difference between 
sexual orientation  and  gender identity:

            He (now she) changed his body from male to female
            because his gender identity always was, and still is,
            female.

            But his sexual orientation always was, and still is,
            heterosexual.
            He always was, and still is, attracted to only women.

,,        ,,        I suppose that:
,,        ,,        ,,        having been used to a:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        male-to-female heterosexual relationship, for decades,
,,        ,,        ,,        that she cannot then force-change it to a:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        female-to-male heterosexual  (& have a boyfriend/husband)
,,        ,,        ,,        nor to a:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        female-to-female homosexual  (& have a girlfriend/wife).
,,        ,,        ,,        Hence she’s decided to never have another relationship of any sort
,,        ,,        ,,        (as stated in many celebrity sites).

This shows us the strength of gender identity:
            Bruce’s gender
            forced him to change his biology
            even though it would ‘mess up’
            his orientation.

You might say:
            “Aha.  Bruce didn’t change sex until the end of
            (or near the end of)
            a long, heterosexually married, life.
But I say:
            “It must have been, for him,
            an inwardly flawed married life.”

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Here are some more transgenders
who’ve had gender dysphoria
and, as a result, had surgery.

YouTube: – Christine Jorgensen on Joe Pyne 1966 or 1967. ,,,,,
This short clip shows that surgically transitioning is not new.

YouTube: – I Used The Men’s Bathroom (But I’m Trans…),,,,,
Blair’s conclusion is practical.  She’s right wing.

Abigail Thorn is left-wing.
YouTube: – I Emailed My Doctor 133 Times:
The Crisis In the British Healthcare System. ,,,,,
Not everyone is as independently minded as Abigail.
Hence I’d say she had the rare ‘I’ve-thought-it-all-through’ gender dysphoria’,
which UK doctors aren’t used to at all
(as compared to the usual  ‘I-may-have-been-influenced’ gender dysphoria
which UK doctors merely aren’t used to).
Hence I disagree with her idea of doing away with
the concept of gender dysphoria altogether.
I think other transgenders need the concept.

Her thoughts on the NHS are interesting.
She prompted me to realise the following:

a)    The NHS Tavistock Clinic was sued
       because it trasitioned someone
       who didn’t need it.

b)    But a clinic hasn’t been (cannot be?) sued
       for not transitioning someone
       who did need it,
       even if they commit suicide as a result.

Item a) became headlines.
Item b) did not.

Such headlines cause/increase
a bias against transitioning
in the minds of everyone.


Here’s an unusual example of a transgender couple.
YouTube: – He's 'Feminine' & I'm 'Masculine' -
And We're In Love | LOVE DON'T JUDGE..,,,,,
They both have the right biology and the right orientation
(so their strict religious parents are looking forward
to a first visit)
but their genders are the wrong way round
(so perhaps put the visit on hold).
Apparently, as well as being masculine in gender,
she is also bisexual in orientation
(3m 51s into another video).
But, obviously, for the sake of their relationship
she is choosing to live only heterosexually.
 
Transgender relationships and marriages that work.
YouTube: – What It's Like To Be In A Trans Relationship |
LOVE DON'T JUDGE. ,,,,,

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A person’s identity is the biggest thing in their life:

            So your biggest identity may be 
            your gender identity
            followed by your sexual orientation.

            Though it could be your politics, or your physique, or looks,
            or something else you could never do without,
            followed by your gender, then your orientation.

            If you were a brainy asexual
            then it may be intellect first, gender second,
            and orientation not even on the list.

            It’s whatever you cannot do without.

            For a believer, who has renewed their mind,
            first on the list is: in Christ.
,,        ,,        A phrase that’s used 25 times in Acts & the Epistles.

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Miracles aside,
it’s right for someone who has gender dysphoria
(an absolute need to change biological sex
that’s never going to go away)
to change their lives, and even their bodies, accordingly.

A person, from four years old upwards,
knows, increasingly clearly,
whether they have gender dysphoria or not.

Gender forms at about four years old.
Orientation forms at puberty.

(Hence school books for pre-pubescent children:
            should include issues regarding gender
            but should never include issues regarding orientation.)

However:
      o    Pushy mums (pushing either way).
      o    Pushy teachers (pushing either way).
      o    Schoolmates (to impress or to fear).
      o    You wanting to get likes & not get cancelled.
      o    Listening to well-meaning, over-enthusiastic, LGBT folk.
      o    Listening to well-meaning, anti-trans, religious folk.
      o    The left, wrongly thinking, that there’s no limit
            to the number of people
            who could rightly surgically transition.
      o    The right, wrongly thinking,
            that ino-one should ever
            surgically transition.
all make it less clear
as to whether you have gender dysphoria or not.

In addition:
      o    Latent homosexuality.
,         ,         It’s only logical that someone
,         ,         who will grow up to be a feminine gay man
,         ,         would have felt like a girl
,         ,         when they were a child.
      o    Temporary pubescent confusion.
      o    Body dysmorphic disorder.
      o    Autism.
      o    Abuse in childhood.
      o    Etc.
also make it less clear
as to whether you have gender dysphoria or not.

Hence, what should be easy becomes a minefield.

Bear in mind that extremely few people have gender dysphoria.

Only:
            0.01%  male-to-female
            0.0025%  female-to-male.
,         ,         From: Wikipedia: Gender dysphoria. ,,,,,
,         ,         See: Epidemiology, a quarter the way down the Wikipedia webpage.

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Logically, if you go through puberty,
and then consider
whether it had been the wrong puberty,
you’d know, for certain,
whether you have gender dysphoria.

But puberty is bad enough without it being the wrong puberty.
So perhaps it’s best to surgically transition before puberty.

However, surgically transitioning, say male-to-female,
before puberty:

            1.   Leaves the surgeon with little (perhaps insufficient)
                 to work with.

            2.   Means you’ll never have an orgasm
                 due to never having had testosterone in your body.
,         ,         ,         YouTube: – Puberty blockers are chemical castration.
,         ,         ,         Marci Bowers (WPATH) casually reveals extent of damage). ,,

,         ,         ,         ,         Marci Bowers has done over two-thousand
,         ,         ,         ,         genital reassignment surgeies.
,         ,         ,         ,         Wikipedia: Marci Bowers. ,,,,,

 

            3.   Leaves you less certain you’ve made the right choice.

            So, I suggest:
                 Going through the wrong puberty,
                 but with family and friends giving rock-solid support.
                 Then, if you still want surgery, do it.

,,        ,,        ,,        N.B. Puberty makes no difference to facial bone development.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        See: Wikipedia: Facial skeleton, ,,,,,
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        scroll down to: Structure / Development.
,,        ,,        ,,        Facial bone development is to do with genes.

,,        ,,        ,,        YouTube: – What You Need to Know
,         ,         ,,        About Facial Feminization Surgery (FFS) |
,         ,         ,         MTF Transgender Transition. ,,,,,

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Many LGBT people
are renowened for their social & creative skills.
 
Hence they are well placed to defend members of their group.
And rightly so.

            Members of the LGBT group are different.
,,        ,,        YouTube: – Gender | The Space Between.,,,,,

,,        ,,        and:
,,        ,,        YouTube: – The gender Spectrum documentary.,,,,,


                       Hence many are rejected.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Wikipedia: Homelessness among LGBT youth
,         ,         ,         ,         in the United States. ,,,,


                       Many attempt suicide:
                       (9% of non-LGBT youth)
                       18% of LGBT youth.
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Wikipedia: Suicide among LGBT youth. ,,,,,

                       And many are murdered.
,         ,,        ,         ,,        Fatal Violence Against the Transgender and Gender
,         ,         ,         ,         Non-Conforming Community in 2022. ,,,,

However, some LGBT activists,
who may not themselves be LGBT,
deal with the subject in an inhumane way.

They treat:

            Those who’ve successfully transitioned
            as a good advert – people to be embraced.

            Regretters and detransitioners
            as a bad advert – people to be rejected.

,,        ,,        Consider:
,,        ,,        YouTube: – Blair White says a loud minority of trans activists
,,     ,,     are making us all look insane’,,,,,

Hence if, in YouTube, you enter:
            ‘transition regret’
            or: ‘detransition’,
you’ll see a number of broken young people,
who had various psychological/social problems,
but were immediately given, by adults as well as by peers,
only one solution:
            “You have gender dysphoria
            and surgically transitioning will fix it.”

So they mistakenly changed their biological sex.
YouTube: – Detrans Awareness Day Panel Discussion
With Detransitioners
For ‘No Way Back’ Documentary. ,,,,,

One study:
,         ,         YouTube: – Surgical Transition:
,         ,         Underlying Issues, Ethics & Regret
,         ,         (Dutch Documentary - English Narration). ,,,,,

,         ,         See:: 19m 20s  to: 22m 50s.
shows that only 1% of the transitioners
actually regret transitioning.

But the fact that a third of the transitioners
didn’t report back at all
shows that it’s probably higher than 1%.

Not transitioning youngsters
who do have gender dysphoria
leads to dissatisfaction, even suicide.

But transitioning youngsters
who don’t have gender dysphoria
also leads to dissatisfaction, even suicide.

            If say, two girls & one boy, in a school of 3,000,
            decide to transition – that’s 0.1% of the school.

            The two girls are 0.066% of the school.

            But, globally, only 0.0025% ftm have gender dysphoria.

            So, if the two girls surgically transitioned
            then such a school would have
            26.4 times too many girls transitioning than average.

            That’s fine:
                 If the school is an exception
                 such that there are twenty-six other schools, elsewhere,
                 that have no ftm transgenders.

            But, if girls in other schools, connected by social media,
            and impressed with the acceptance, novelty, camaraderie,
            specialness, attention, etc, accrued,
            were inspired to also transition
            then there would be too many girls transitioning.
            I.E. There would be girls wrongly transitioning.

,         ,         Percentages are from the two cells, starting Transgender people,
,         ,         earlier in this section.

,         ,         This is what Jordan Peterson, a clinical psychologist, is worried about.
,         ,         The following video shows how useful such skills are.
,         ,         YouTube: – Detransition: The Wounds That Won't Heal | Chloe Cole | EP 319. ,,,,,

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Transgender people:

      o    Though very different from most people,
            are people,
            and therefore deserve:
                       equal dignity,
                       equal status,
                       and equal acceptance.
      o    Conversely, they should not,
            because they are transgender,
            be feared or bullied.
      o    Cannot change others.
      o    Cannot even change themselves.

Perhaps again see earlier chart: BODY & BRAIN & MIND. ,,,,,

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A transgender man or transgender woman can be:
            a Christian,
            saved,
            destined for Heaven and knows it.

For Christianity is not about your performance.

            Christianity is about you believing that:
                       God has Forgiven all sins
                       by way of Jesus’ crucifixion.
                       I.E. God has put all of us right with himself.

            And, due to believing the above,
            you change:
                       Become ever more constructive.
                       And, renewing your mind, & having God’s Spirit,
                       ever more potent in that constructiveness.

            A married transgender person who believes:
                       because they believe,
                       will definitely go to Heaven.

            But a married transgender person who believes,
            and has renewed their mind,
            may yet find their transgenderism
            to be a distraction,
            a form of doubt,
            of unbelief,
,         ,         Perhaps see first two cells of later section:
               UNBELIEF IS A BREAK IN THE CIRCUIT. ,,,,,

            that hinders their prayers & commands.

          ,         Perhaps again see five cells (starting Jesus explains)
,         ,         in earlier section: WHY GOD’S WORDS HAVE POWER.
,         ,         and the links within them.
,         ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)

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               Don’t forget to read the last section on this webpage:
               WHY THROW AWAY THE PRESENTS.,,,,,

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THE HEART/SPIRIT, THE SOUL, AND SEX

Some Christians say that the first time you have sex
you join together, spiritually.

But I reckon that this is a:

            People centred doctrine,
            a human soul centred doctrine.

            Not a God centred doctrine
            nor a human heart/spirit centred doctrine.

                 When a couple have sex they become one flesh
                       Gen c2 v24:
                       Therefore shall a man leave
                       his father and his mother,
                        and shall cleave unto his wife:
                       and they shall be one flesh.   KJV

                 But they do not become one heart/spirit.
                       Hearts/spirits cannot blend with each other,
                       cannot become one.
,         ,         ,         ,         A being is an eternal self-teaching structure
,         ,         ,         ,         so two beings cannot become one being.

,         ,         ,         ,         (Don’t confuse this with two people both having good hearts/spirits.)

Joining flesh is of no eternal consequence anyway:
See later section:
YOU INHERIT THE QUALITIES
BUT NOT THE PREVIOUS CHANGES.,,,,,

 

            There is no marriage in Heaven, no sex in Heaven.
,         ,         Perhaps see first four cells
,         ,         of earlier section: NATURAL BEAUTY.

            So fornication damages only the soul (which is still bad)
            but only in this life.

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Paul writes that, when someone becomes a Christian,
 their heart/spirit blends with God’s Spirit.
            1 Cor c6 v17:
            But he that is joined unto the Lord
            is one spirit.   KJV.”

But I say:
            “It only feels that way, only seems that way.”
,         ,         Perhaps see last two cells
,         ,         (starting The following seems to be an exception)
,         ,         of earlier section: OVERVIEW.

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MARRY OR STAY SINGLE?

Paul writes that being single is a gift  1 Cor c7 v1-17  
just like being married is a gift. 

You may ask:
      “How can being single be a gift?”

I say:
      “In biblical times & places
      leading Christians were:
            stoned to death,
            crucified,
            fed to the lions, or burnt alive, in the Circus Maximus,
            boiled in oil,
            etc.
            So Paul’s advice to stay single was right
            for there & for then.

            Also, Christians who were serious about God
            wouldn’t be bothered with all the things
            people usually fill their lives with.
            For Christianity was new, fast growing,
            and so impactful
            that they thought they were in the End Times,
            thought that the world would soon end.

            Also, there was natural good to do:
                 out of their own self-expression
                 and out of the indwelling Spirit expressing himself.

            Also, there were miracles to do:
                 for the same reasons as above
                 and because miracles validated the gospel.

            Also, the gospel to preach:
                 for there were no Bibles.

            Hence, being single, in those times & places,
            was as a gift.”

These days, for Christians:

            In parts of the world
            where there is much persecution:
            being single is a gift:

,,        ,,        The INDEPENDENT newspaper.
,         ,         Christians: The world's most persecuted people. ,,,,,


,,        ,,        Open Doors: WORLD WATCH LIST. ,,,,,


,,        ,,        The Voice of the Martyrs. ,,,,,

            Conversely, in parts of the world
            where there is little/no persecution:
            being married is a gift.

I reckon that Christian marriage should not be
husbands bossing wives about.
(Even though Paul wrote that should be: Eph c5 v22-24.) ,,

(Mind you, Paul also wrote that husbands should
love their wives to the death!  Eph c5 v25.)

I reckon that, generally speaking:
,,        Men are: ‘thing’ people, less emotional,
,,        more competitive, not always paternal,
,,        holistic yet single focus.
,,        Women are: people people, more emotional,
,,        team players, always maternal,
,,        multi focus.

So I reckon that:
,,        A married couple’s every decision
,,        should, after research & discussion,
,,        be finally made
,,        by the one who’s strongest in that area.
 
,,        But, if a challenge produces deadlock,
,,        then it’s best for one of you to always have the final say.

,,        It doesn’t necessarily have to be the man.
,,        As long as it’s always the same one.
,,        (Agree on who it will be early on in the marriage
,,        though you could switch when things are quiet.)

,,        When all goes well – that person gets all the credit.
,,        When all goes badly – that person gets all the blame.

,,        Of course, if you’re both Christians,
,,        and so both have the Holy Spirit  Rom c8 v9 ,,,
,,        and so both hear from God,
,,        then some of the above is redundant.

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WHY THROW AWAY THE PRESENTS?

God made everything.

So God wants to fix everything that needs fixing.

John c10 v10:
The thief cometh not, but for to
steal, and to kill, and to destroy:
I am come that they might have life,
and that they might have it more abundantly.   KJV
 
            So, if some part of you, or someone else,
            is wrong/lacking/needs improving,
            then pray, or command, in Jesus’ name,
            without doubting,
            and God will fix it.

,         ,         See first two cells
,         ,         of earlier section: GOD’S METHODS
,         ,         and the links within it.
,         ,         (This link does not open a new tab.)

,         ,         Perhaps again see earlier section:
,         ,         WHY GOD’S WORDS HAVE POWER.,,,,,

,         ,         See the four Bible texts
,         ,         in four cells (starting Luke c17 v5-6)
,         ,         of earlier section:
,         ,         CHANGING FROM NON-HETEROSEXUAL TO HETEROSEXUAL.

As God made such blessings in the first place
(and empowers such miraculous repairs/improvements)
then why oh why
does Jesus also want us to give up those benefits,
throw away the presents?
 
Jesus said: ,,,
            Die to this life, and don’t look back.  Matt c8 v19-22,,,
            Love me more than you love your family.  Matt c10 v37-39,,,
            You must take up your cross.  Matt c16 v24,,,
            Take up your cross and die to this life.  Mark c8 v34-35,,,
            Take up your cross and die to this life.  Luke c9 v23,,,,,
            Die to this life, and don’t look back.  Luke c9 v57-62,,,
            Hate your family, hate your own life.  Luke c14 v25-33,,,

            Doing all this is merely your duty.  Luke c17 v7-10,,,,

The above list of hardship commands
does not contain a reward, of any kind,
in this life or the next.
Hence the Beatitudes are not in the list.

Each of them is: Lose out in this life – for no reason.

            There is no earning, no reward.
            So they are not part of Judgment.

            So, if they are done out of anything,
            they are done out of gratitude
            from having been Forgiven.
            They are part of Forgiveness,
            are part of the Christian life.

            They assume you’ve already become a believer
            (even though Jesus said them before Pentecost).

            Becoming a Christian:

                 Not only brings you persecution
                  so that you don’t feel at home here materially.

                 It also means you change
                 so that you don’t feel at home here materially.

                  Your heart/spirit changes your soul:
                       so that you find doing good,
                       especially doing miraculous good,
                       something you want to do,
                       prefer to do, 
                       even more than earthly pleasures,
                       even right earthly pleasures.

                       John c12 v25:
                       He that loveth his life shall lose it;
                       and he that hateth his life in this world
                       shall keep it unto life eternal.   KJV

                       1 John c2 v15-17:
                        Love not the world,
                        neither the things that are in the world.
                        If any man love the world,
                        the love of the Father is not in him.
                        For all that is in the world,
                             the lust of the flesh,*
                              and the lust of the eyes,
                             and the pride of life,
                        is not of the Father, but is of the world.
                        And the world passeth away,
                        and the lust thereof: **
                        but he that doeth the will of God
                        abideth for ever.   KJV

,         ,                            *Lust is sex - with everything else (notably love) missing.
,         , ,                          (High sexual appetite is not the same as lust.)

 

,         , ,                          **Notice it’s not:
,         , ,,      ,         ,         ,         You passeth away, the world continues.
,         , ,                          It’s:
,         , ,,      ,         ,         ,         The world passeth away, you continue.

            It can help, in doing all the above,
            to think of yourself as a soldier.

                       2 Tim c2 v1-4:
                       A soldier doesn’t get involved
                       in civilian matters.   my abbreviation

                       Eph c6 v10-17:
                       The Christian life is like a soldier’s life,
                       except constructive
                       instead of destructive.   my abbreviation

,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        See: C.S. Lewis: Enemy-occupied territory. ,,,,,

,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        Perhaps see Mark Hemans’:
,,        ,,        ,,        ,,        YouTube: – The key to walking in the Power of Jesus
,         ,         ,         ,         is dying to the flesh.,,,,,

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            John c7 v37-39:
            In the last day, that great day of the feast,
            Jesus stood and cried [out], saying,
                 If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink.
                 He that believeth on me,
                 as the scripture hath said,
                 out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.
                 (But this spake he of the Spirit,
                 which they that believe on him should receive:
                 for the Holy Ghost was not yet given;
                 because that Jesus was not yet glorified.)   KJV

            These verses speak of the anointing:
                 the Holy Spirit, in a believer,
                 coming out of a believer,
                 and miraculously blessing others.

            Jesus’ Punishment in our place
            made us holy in his Father’s eyes.

            Hence his Father was able to give us all
            his powerful Holy Spirit.

                 But do you want to leave the Holy Spirit
                 where God put him:
                 in the hallway of your mind?

                 Or do you want to make all the rooms of your mind,
                 all the areas of your life,
                 actually holy,
                 so that he can live, speak, & work,
                 in & through all of them?

            I reckon that this dying to the world is the price,
            the price of the pearl/treasure of great price.
            See: Matt c13 v44-46.,,,,,

            And that the quiet, indwelling, Holy Spirit,
            or even the, active, anointing of the Holy Spirit,
            is the pearl/treasure.

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            N.B. The Holy Spirit makes no sense to unbelievers.
,,        ,,        See last cell (starting Mind you, even though)
,,        ,,        of earlier section: GOD THE SPIRIT.

            Hence he will never make sense to the wicked.

            Hence I reckon that’s why the pearl/treasure verses 
            Matt c13 v44-46,,,
            are nestled amongst Judgment verses
            Matt c13 v24-30   Matt c13 v36-43   Matt c13 v47-50.,,,

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